Fighting for our Men


Some people have asked me if I ever want to get married. I used to always answer, yes. Nowadays, though, I have a different answer. I say that some days I do, but some days I enjoy being single—either way the Lord knows what is best for me. Whether that is to be married or to remain single. I will be honest, though, getting married scares me. Besides being single for a very long time and being pretty set in my ways, I have a fear that my husband could walk away from the Lord. I have seen it too many times—the wife going to church alone bringing all the children by herself. Sitting in the church service when her husband should be there by her side.

I know I’ve never been married, but I think a marriage needs to be founded on God. What I mean by that is that God needs to be at the center of the marriage. As sinful humans, we make many mistakes and tend to be selfish. A marriage is a partnership—two people working as one unit. However, it is made up of two different people with very different ideas coming together to form a haven. If God is at the center, He is the common denominator. When God is the common denominator, both husband and wife will do everything they can to please God, and as a result, they will work hard to make the marriage a success.

So why do we see men drop out of church? Why do they lose their fire for the Lord and go in the opposite direction? I am sure there are many reasons, but I believe one main reason is that, according to the Bible, they are to be the heads of the home, and as such, Satan attacks them particularly hard. God’s Word describes Satan as a roaring lion in I Peter 5:8 where it states, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.” If he can devour the leader of the home, it will crumble the haven that the home should be. It can destroy the others in the home to the point that they walk away from the Lord, as well.

We are in a war, and it is a fierce battle. Ephesians 6:11-12 says, “Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Satan is at war with God and with us. He is looking to destroy as many Christians and homes as he can.

What can we do to help with this? One important thing we can do is to pray for the men in our lives (fathers, brothers, husbands, etc.), as well as men in the church, especially those in leadership positions. Pray that they will stand strong against Satan’s attacks. Pray that they will stay in God’s Word. Pray that they will be sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s prompting when they sin. Pray that they will continue to follow the Lord.

Let’s not let Satan win. Let’s do all we can to fight for our homes, churches and the men in our lives. God is omnipotent, which means He has all power. “Thy right hand, O Lord, is become glorious in power: thy right hand, O Lord, hath dashed in pieces the enemy” (Exodus 15:6). Our God wins. I am thankful that I am “on the winning side.”

2 thoughts on “Fighting for our Men

  1. Amen!
    I completely agree with everything. But may I throw this out here? Would it help out future marriages if the church talks maybe a little bit more about the stages before marriage, “dating?” To prepare, what to expect, and to remind to keep Christ in the center now. I love that we talk about marriage, families and individuals and how we need Christ. And though it replies to even when in a relationship, maybe it can help if there was something a little bit more. Maybe it could help young men and women before married so that it won’t fall but strong. And just a thought, what if men and women in the church who have been through this can talk maybe one on one, be a mentor to us who are younger and less experienced? I don’t know how many young men have a mentor or someone who they can go and talk to about life… just an idea. I can’t say much because I’m not married either but all I know is that if we pray daily, being in the Word daily, seek Godly counsel from those who are strong in their faith. I believe we can keep God in the center in our lives that will put God in the center of our relationships from family, friends and marriages we can see it being stronger, healthier and more Christ like.

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